It is impossible, yet maybe worthwhile.
Getting people to be strong, durable, resilient, tolerant, without making them tough, brutal, antagonistic, combative.

We are divided about almost everything. This topic included.

It’s easy to make people tough skinned. The problem is you wind up with hippos, not people. — my Dad. a drunken fighter pilot.who could catch quarters or shoot them from 1000 yards.